No Filter = People Love or Hate You

A while ago I watched the disasterous LCQ at neobuggy.net, and after I crashed the commentator said a thousand cheers and a thousand boos as I am such a divisive character, or something like that. And I just thought I would write a bit about that.

Do I want people to hate me? No of course not, who wants that? I would like to be loved by everyone. Do I want to sell more, and make more money? Yes of course, who wouldn’t? So why don’t I do that? Because being vanilla requires you to be dishonest with yourself and what you believe in, and it requires you to be both a sheep and a hypocrite. We all are both of those things, me too, but we all draw the line somewhere. It’s just a question of where. And I decided to draw it in a very different place compared to most people.

I am not a bad person, but if you give me reason to, I will say bad things to you. If I don’t like you, you will know. If I have an opinion, you will hear it. I’m OK with all of that. For the people that I have had disagreements with, it’s perfectly fine if they hate me. I don’t hold grudges, so I don’t hate them, but if they hate me I understand, and I am fine with it.

The thing that gets me, is that for the people that have never met me, there is no reason to hate me. There really isn’t. I challenge you to find one. All I have said for the past few years on facebook is that I don’t think police should shoot people in the face, I don’t think racism is a particularly good idea, I don’t think all muslims are terrorists, I think all people should be treated equally, regardless of who they are, what their skin colour is, which god they believe in, how much money they have in the bank, or who their friends are, and I think if a woman wants to have an abortion I think she should be legally able to do it.

I don’t know about you, but I can’t see where any of those opinions make me a bad person. I’m sorry I don’t hate people different to me.

 

7 thoughts on “No Filter = People Love or Hate You

  1. Anthony DiFronzo says:

    You are a stand up guy JQ. I may have never met you in person, but I have been watching you build your company and respect all the hard work that you put into your product. I love JQ cars. I have driven every name brand and think that The Car is hands down the best. In my opinion. Keep up the great work. You will never please everyone.

  2. wc 2002 says:

    Jq. I hate you…Degani

  3. Yeah, Mr.Goodguy says:

    You did slap phil from Neobuggy real hard in the face totally uncalled for, and just bad manners at Naxos worlds. Thats why youre not a good person, and should be treated like one too. I dont care if you were tired, drunk or whatever, that shit is just plain stupid to do.

    //cheers, you deserve it and live with it.

    • jqproducts says:

      LOL how silly can you be. Phil is my friend and I did not slap him hard, I killed a mosquito on his cheek. It was a joke dude, but one with a purpose! (killing the mosquito)

  4. Brad W. says:

    I stumbled across this on facebook, read it, and thought I would respond. Not because you really care what I think…lol, but just to throw out some constructive thoughts/feedback. 🙂

    First, I should clarify that I have never met you personally, but I have seen and dealt with (moderator on a popular r/c forum) some of your ‘work’ on a few forums, and LRC. So I am basing my response solely on those times. 😉

    I think for most when speaking (or not), there is the old saying before you speak that asks – Is it true? Is it necessary? Is it kind? And while I personally greatly appreciate honesty and some quick wit, just beyond that very fine line, is abrasive. And that’s where I, and I believe most people see you (just my opinion). Not a bad person, or mean, or anything like that, just…..abrasive.

    I personally don’t believe we have to be vanilla to have a filter. We can almost always say what we want people to know or hear if we choose, but once we decide to say it, it’s then that the filter can lasso our tongue and still say what we want, but in a more non-abrasive way. We still get ‘it’ off our chest if needed, but most won’t leave the conversation thinking….man, that guy is a total tool!….lol.

    To me, ‘vanilla’ = someone that just wants to please everyone all the time, refuses to stand up for nearly anything, and/or insists on always being politically correct. Where, a ‘filter’ can still take the stand, but with a little lower grit of abrasiveness. 😉

    We have some different beliefs, but I don’t hate you or even dislike you. Your rants are somewhat entertaining at times, in fact. 🙂

    I respect what you are trying to do with your company, and applaud you for it. That said…I believe in our world today, that truth/honesty shared or defended abrasively usually won’t grow your business the way you want, even though it might be 100% accurate. Most of the time you don’t have to filter the truth, just filter the delivery of it. 🙂

    Personally, I think the ‘abrasive filter’ would help change people’s view of you, because as you said, we all like to be liked, even those who try and be thick-skinned and own r/c car companies. 😉

    Have a blessed day! 🙂

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